Picture pages...

how purdy.

be jealous of my homemaking skills

and my daughter who was a soaring eagle at school. hey is that kid picking his nose?

my other daughter the athlete at the FUN RUN

until an injury occurred - double scraped knees

then she walked the rest

someone is dressed up for church and not happy about it

maybe he was just tired

someone lost her first tooth. and bigger news is mommy handled this one without daddy. motherhood makes you face your heebie jeebies.

I didn't' think it was really ready but to cheer her on I promised she could have ice cream for dinner if she pulled it out - she had that bad boy out of there in record time. Later she sat at the dinner table BEAMING with her bowl of ice cream.

Frugal foodie - the girls and I made 150+ biscuits for the freezer from this recipe

we put them on cookie sheets and froze them

after we made one batch - now we have biscuits ready for freezer jam

the girls got a little jealous of PJ so I swaddled them too - Maiya fell asleep and slept swaddled for over an hour - maybe I should still be swaddling her??

Sock hop day!!!

my little shorty :)

bubble gum blowing contest

lego rock band anyone?? I was enjoying the background music as I cooked dinner so I snuck up with the camera - it was fun to see Cora in on the action.

The post in which I get nerdy.

** this post will seem like a plug because I am loving YNAB so much - but its not - there is not a single incentive for me to write this - promise.

You guys know my love for all things related to frugality. And you probably remember that we were kicking some major tail on the Dave Ramsey plan.

We we are still working the babysteps, but stamina and endurance was drifting. We were getting a little sleepy at the wheel. A few things happened in the budgeting department that were like a swift kick in the gut - our air conditioner died, we had a baby (that's a good thing, but it still included a hefty bill), and then somewhere in the middle our bank moved.

That was actually the hardest - our Texans Credit Union branch moved from right here on Va. Parkway to way the crap down El Dorado.

ugh.

It seriously hampered my cash envelope system. It was hard to be pregnant/nursing a newborn and drive 20 minutes out of my way to get my cash envelopes on.

so we were more and more back on the debit card.

and there is a lot less responsibility to the card.

Last week I was very discouraged and trying to plan Christmas down to the last penny when I came across a post about YNAB in the babycenter "we're debt free" forum that I frequent for frugal inspiration.

Now our usual budgeting involves 2 checking accounts, Microsoft money software, and three homemade spreadsheets. It is a little time consuming. Worth it in my opinion, but time consuming.

but.. enter YNAB and just a few days later its all beginning to be streamlined.

YNAB has a little bit different methodology than Dave Ramsey. The premise of YNAB is to pay the currents months bills and living expenses off of LAST month's income - so you basically have a one month "buffer" as it is referred to in the software. Here are the four official rules of YNAB:

Give Every Dollar a Job

Save for a Rainy Day

Roll with the Punches

Stop Living Paycheck to Paycheck

You can still use the software without the buffer and since we only work with one mortgage payment as a buffer - our full buffer will take time. But that is ok I am still in love with using it.

Everything else is in line with Dave Ramsey, zero based budgeting, give every dollar a job, and be accountable to the budget.

The biggest thing I like is that the main page is your budget. So often I pay more attention to what exactly is in the bank instead of how my budget is breaking down. Not so with this software. Before I could look at the bank balance online, double check that with Microsoft money and choose to ignore our budgeting spreadsheet if I want.

YNAB the two talk to each other, when I put something in the account register it subtracts it from the category in my budget. And a really cool feature that I am LOVING is you can do split transactions in your account register. So if you spent 200 at walmart and 120 was groceries and 80 were Christmas gifts you can split the transaction and it will appropriately deduct in the budget categories. So nice because before I could "sneak" things in the grocery category.

so my breakdown:

Pros:

• The budget is the priority
• streamlined process
• if you add all accounts you have including mortgage and retirement, it tracks your overall net worth for you (or net debt if you are us)
• split transactions - woo-hoo
• pretty easy set up - instant download
• accountability - but this is good, I am getting excited about entering receipts
• there is a uncleared/cleared check box next to each transaction in your account register, so when things clear the bank you can just check the box and it keeps track of your balance minus uncleared transactions, equals your working balance - its much faster than Microsoft money which I organized by dates.
• once you do have a full buffer you could in theory sit and pay all your bills for the month in one fell swoop in a few minutes - then touch up your budget and all you would have to do after that is stay up on transactions in your account register.
• If you are and iphone person which I am not YNAB does have an app for that.

cons

• its not free - its $60 - I got had a coupon that I can no longer seem to find online and got it for $35, for a $12 off coupon go here: https://secure.youneedabudget.com/checkout/singleLoad.do?r=1290005609920&merchantId=YNAB

• Its software downloaded to you computer, you can pay $10 extra and get a dvd copy of the system so you can add it to other computers
• - if you wanted a system that was could be accessed via internet you would need to go with myvelopes.com - but its a subscription service and very expensive - I think $50/ quarter or like 180 for 2 years.
• there is a slight learning curve, since I am totally jazzed I sat and read up on it before I started, and I listed to the tutorial videos while folding clothes - but If you just jumped right in I don't think it would throw off the flux capacitor because the software is straightforward. I just like to read the directions.
• you have to do a download for it to talk to your bank and I don't know how to do that yet - but I don't mind I like to enter things in the register myself

Other side of the lens

It was nice to be on the other side of the camera - thanks for the fabulous family shots Brooke!

there is this box.

see those freckles? I love them, when I cuddle with him I sometimes touch them one by one. he laughs and tells me to stop.

Having Parker join our family has made my heart turn especially tender for Benjamin.

My first born.

The recipient of my freshman mothering.

I love him so much.

Taking out and washing his baby clothes for his new little brother made memories flood my mind of when he was so little.

And now he is a ten year old. That means he is closer to leaving the nest in time that he is to the time he joined our nest.

I was so anxious for each first - I couldn't wait for him to roll over, crawl, talk.

I buzzed his hair off before his first birthday - and I was proud because it made him look so grown up and boyish. My mom cried - "ahhh you cut off all his baby curls!"

I worked full time until after his third birthday. My heart ached to drop him off everyday. And I wondered all day what he was doing.

Then when I stayed home, I expected perfection of him and me. And I realize now I was too hard on both of us. I yelled too much at a small boy.

I should have enjoyed it ALL, markers on carpet, sand in the kitchen from the sandbox, dumping out all the toys to play with just one. Pancake syrup on every conceivable surface of the kitchen.

Dirty church clothes 5 minutes after you put them on. Ripped up books that we didn't get to read enough.

If I could go back I'd slow down and just enjoy.

But I don't need to go back I am going to do it now.

I am going to enjoy my ten year old who tells me all the details about youtube videos of darth vader, how he likes to alternate reading three or four books at the same time instead of just finishing one before he starts the next. I'll let go of the fact that to him standing in the shower for thirty minutes is better than actually using soap. And if you floss a between a couple teeth you can technically say you 'flossed'.

I love how he takes his friendships very seriously.

I love that he will play with his sisters for a long time, and that as rough as he is on them, no stitches have resulted :)

As of this moment in time he still lets me cuddle with him on the sofa when we are watching Amazing Race

and

he still asks me to come eat lunch with him at school.

one day soon those things will be way uncool.

And before I know it Parker will be a big kid too... because there is this box in my room to put his clothes in as he outgrows them - and its already half full.

Benjamin at Chuck E Cheese -- 3 yrs. old

Just in case I ran out of envelopes and you didn't get one in the mail

Wild thing...you make my heart sing...You make everything

Groovy

Presenting…

Parker James Oyakawa

September 12, 2010

9 pounds 12 ounces

Kyle, Janie, Benjamin, Ella, Maiya, and Cora Oyakawa

other ones from his first photo shoot...